** 1st day chaste **
** 4th cum for Master **
i am in a wonderful mood today. Currently i'm at Master's house and it is fantastic to be back here after a rather short break away. It is good to be with Master again and i feel like we have easily settled back into eachother's company. i feel very relaxed around Master and quite at home and quite comfortable in Master's house.
The other great thing was that Master has let me cum, which was a fantastic feeling, particularly after 11 days in chastity. This morning i was back into my chastity device and it was the first time that i actually did not feel overly excited about going back into chastity. It made me realise that i now accept chastity as part of my daily life, meaning that some of the excitement about it has started to go. Going back into chastity, while obviously accepted and expected, now makes chastity seem more routine. i take it as evidence of my ever increasing slide into slavery.
Master has asked me to blog about the difference between slavery and being a submissive. In some ways this is a rather simple topic to blog about, but in other ways it is more complex. Before i delve into my thoughts, i thought i would start with a rather hot picture to provide some more images for this blog:
So the relevance of this picture to a discussion of slavery versus subs? Quite simply, there are two boys and only one cock: perhaps it is a Master with a sub and a slave? :-)
For me, the essential difference between a slave and a sub is a lifestyle difference. Most subs are only "subs" for the duration of the scene or scheduled play time. Once playtime is over, they revert to their normal selves and may even socialise with their Masters as equals outside of the scene. Ofter subs will have limits and may engage in more detailed discussions with a particular Master about the type of scene they want to be part of. Usually the scene or session will have a designated finishing time.
For slaves, their is no "session" as the Master-slave relationship is a lifestyle that is lived on a day-to-day basis. As a consequences, a slave is always a slave in his Master's presence and nearly always a slave apart from his Master. A slave usually does not have any limits aside from a few safety precautions and his service to his Master will transcend a particular scene and stretch into the realm of normal everyday life. A slave surrenders total control to his Master and that control is surrendered indefinitely (although effectively for the duration of a contract) whereas a sub will surrender control (and even then how much control may be defined) for a particular set scene or time period.
Slaves can either be full-time and actually live with their Master or part-time and live away from their Master. i am a part-time slave because i live away from Master, but even then, part-time slaves are much distinguishes from subs. Although both may only see their Master occasionally, the day-to-day differences are enormous.
For example, although i am part-time slave, i am a slave because i have surrendered total control to Master. When i am in the vanilla world away from Master, i am still in chastity, still wear a collar and still live my life in accordance with a set of rules Master has issued. My daily life is very much structured around my slavery, even when Master is not present. When away from Master i have daily contact with Master - usually at minimum twice a day, but often much more - and Master controls decisions i might make in the vanilla world. This would not happen with an ordinary sub. Whereas a sub might control over his own sex life, i have no such control. The only sexual activity i have is with Master or as directed by Master.
One of the key areas where i am different from a sub with my Master, is that my visits to Master are also a lot longer than the usual sub visits. Whereas a sub might visit for a couple of hours or overnight; my visits to Master are usually five or six days in length and involve a substantial amount of time spent with Master, always in the Master-slave context, but necessarily doing "pure" bondage activities.
Another way of examining the difference between submissives and slaves is to consider the issues of volunteerism and trust. Both subs and slaves obviously serve their Masters voluntarily (to do otherwise would be illegal after all), but slaves can and will do things they do not like, simply to please their Master. This is a concept that is difficult to explain in writing, but it is best described as a certain way of "being": the Master-slave relationship is quite a deep relationship and exists at a level beyond safe words and limits. The Master and their slave are able to have this because their relationship is built very heavily on trust and trust that has been built and solidified over a long period of time. Unless a sub places with a Master very regularly, it is unlikely that a sub will achieve the same level of trust with his Master. At the end of the day, the Master and slave spend a great deal of time with each other which serves to engender the feeling of trust and strengthens the bond between them.
i hope this explanation of my understanding of the differences between slaves and subs is of value. It is an interesting topic and i will post further on it as my thoughts on it develop. The challenge is while i understand what makes me a slave (namely, the things i have outlined above), it is more difficult to put it into a more discrete and explicable framework.
