Tuesday, 19 April 2011

** 8th day chaste **

When checking emails and Recon last night after getting back from Spain, i was delighted to see a message from a boy in Australia i had a played with before i left.  This boy is a switch and achieved the perfect trifecta of being very hot, very kinky and also a gentleman and an intellectual and i was rather sad i did not have the opportunity to get to know him further.  We lived in different cities and given i was moving to the UK, there were no real opportunities and so i am very happy to hear from him again.

One of the things he asked me about was my relationship with Master and effectively whether we were a "couple" in the conventional sense.  After i sent him a couple of messages explaining things he suggested i should post about it in this blog and i thought that was a brilliant suggestion.

Master-slave relationships, like any human relationships, can take a number of different forms.  Some Master-slave relationships exist within the framework of a conventional vanilla-style relationship such as a marriage or civil union.  The very popular bloggers in A Master and His slave are an example of this relationship.

The relationship between Master and i is somewhat different to this.  Master has made it very clear that we are not in a "romantic" relationship as such:  we are not boyfriends or partners; rather our relationship is, quite simply (although it offers no explanation) a relationship of a Master and a slave.  i find it hard to explain to others, even within the BDSM community, how the relationship works.  It is relationship that is far stronger and far deeper than "friends with benefits" or "fuck buddies".  In this sense it is more analogous to a "boyfriends" relationship or perhaps even a "Daddy-son" relationship.

The fact that we are not boyfriends is very clear to us.  Although we may do many of the things a traditional couple might do, we also do not do many things that a couple may do and Master has explicitly made clear His right to embark upon a more vanilla-style relationship if He choses and this may well operate parallel to our relationship.  i of course do not have a boyfriend or any similar type relationships at this stage.

In my opinion this does not devalue my relationship with Master at all.  It is simply put, a different type of relationship and within our relationship we exhibit towards each other the feelings of warmth, kindness, tenderness and affection that you find in any relationship.  The only difference is, we do it very much in a BDSM context.

The other interesting aspect of our relationship is that it is very much an open-relationship.  Master is free to embark upon any other sexual experiences He wishes and may have which ever sexual experiences He wishes.  i cannot and my chastity is the guardian of this.  Of course that does not mean i cannot have sex with people other than Master, it means that i need either Master's permission to do so, or Master's order to do so.

Hopefully this provides some context to the relationship Master and i share.